One of my many takeaways from GriefShare was actually a suggestion for children who are grieving, but really applies to all ages. In fact, I’ve shared this practice with some adult family members.
I am not one to hold conversations with my dead husband. I know a lot of folks find meaning in talking to their deceased loved ones. That’s great. Do what works for you. That practice hasn’t felt comfortable for me as I never seem to hear anything back. Sigh. Believe me, I’d love to know what Dennis would say about a number of things lately.
Now about that takeaway, which I believe I understood correctly. (Grief brain is still a thing.) The suggestion was to give a family member an LED candle to light whenever they want to talk to their deceased loved one. You “light” the candle as a reminder of the person while you talk. I suppose you could also do this for a pet. I love this idea for a child (and my mother-in-law).
I’m so doing this, but in my own way. I’ve got candles. And I’ve got a lot to say. Because I’m always thinking about church stuff, I am pondering All Saints Day and the connection to all those who have gone before us, now including my husband. The Church Triumphant gained a good one there.
My understanding and belief is that we do not pray to saints, but we do pray with them. Shazam! That’s the connection. Dennis and I started our relationship as prayer partners. Guess what? We still are. Every time I turn on this LED candle.
There’s your All Saints sermon. And I’m not even preaching this Sunday.
If you are grieving, I highly recommend finding a GriefShare group. You won’t be disappointed.